How does it feel to wake up one fine morning and see all the dishes done or the laundry completed? Well, this need not remain a distant dream, if you teach your child to share your responsibilities at the right age. There is nothing wrong when your child does simple chore in the house or certain age-specific chores to share your load and learn something. It helps them learn new things, take responsibility, occasionally make mistakes but importantly learn from them. Most importantly, it helps them take decisions and own them up. It increases their self confidence and enthusiasm, sometimes helps to nurture their creativity and makes them independent.
But, how do you teach your child about responsibility? It surely depends on their age and abilities. So, you can start off with a list of household chores, which you think they will be able to do at that age. Once, your ground work is done, it is time to follow a few simple ways to teach your child:
Start At An Early Age:
Start young and give them simple chores to do like pick up their toys or make a sandwich. This helps them learn things, which also helps them in their education. Make them do their own work in smaller bits and inculcate it into a habit.
Let Them Take Decisions:
Taking responsibility means taking decisions too. So, let them take simple decisions or involve them in your decisions. Take their suggestions and make them feel important. Taking decisions make them feel responsible for the task and they tend to do it better.
Show Them ‘How’:
It is important to show them how to do things or how a particular task gets done. Involve yourself too when they are young so that they have your support and feel motivated. Tell them how to follow a process and what is right and what is wrong.
Let Them Make Mistakes:
When they are taking decisions, they are also taking risks and if they make mistakes, don’t discourage them. Rather, encourage them to learn from their mistakes. This way they know where they went wrong and will be able to rectify their mistakes, the next time.
Praise, But Do Not Reward Always:
You need to praise their efforts, even if they fail in their responsibility. At the same time, you also need to point out their mistakes, so that they do not repeat the same. Do not reward in cash or kind every time because then they will think that they are earning and might not take the responsibility in the right way. Moreover, not every time they can expect something in return for the responsibility.
As your child learns to take responsibility for things gradually, you will also see a marked difference in their behaviour. They will calm down if they are too aggressive; they will learn to focus and be careful about things. They will become responsible in handling cash and managing savings.
Responsible kids are always an asset for their parents. They learn to respect others and take care of their parents. Along with sharing your responsibilities, they also give you a happy and healthy family environment.