Becoming a mother changes a lot for a woman- both physically and emotionally. She enters a new phase of life with new responsibilities and challenges. However, every woman is still tied to her past life of a daughter, a wife, a professional and of course, of being an independent soul. She welcomes this new job with eagerness and a bit of anxiety, but she also missed her past life. Sometimes, it happens that becoming a mother makes her feel detached from her previous life.
Many suffer silently because of this as they are not ready to cope up with the burden of motherhood, and others tend to forget and move on. However, becoming a mother does not mean that you lose connect with your earlier self. Hence, it is very important for a woman to re-connect with the life, she has left behind (if it made her happy), while accepting new responsibilities of motherhood.
While you have your own ways to get back to life after a stressing phase of entering motherhood, these simple ways can help you take decisions faster and logically:
Do Not Think Of Motherhood As A Burden:
Do not get stressed about this new phase of motherhood. You need to keep calm and connect with your baby more and more. The more you stay close to your baby, the more you discover the wonders of being a mother. So, as you get comfortable with your life as a mother, it will be easier for you to focus on other things in life.
Take Help From Others:
Do not think that bringing up a child is solely your responsibility. So, take help from others like your spouse, parents and in-laws, nanny, etc., who can share your responsibilities, and help you in their own way. This way you can find time for yourself and you can think about other important things in life.
Spend Time With Yourself:
After being a mother, you still need to find time for yourself. Spend this time doing things you like, things that make you happy. You can go out shopping, spend time with friends or for a relaxing spa, etc. This way you can start living a life outside of being a mother, which keeps your mind refreshed and your soul rejuvenated.
Think About Getting Back To Your Career:
Though, getting back to work should not be the first thing on your mind after being a mother because your baby is still very small and he/she needs you the most. But, never think of giving up your career completely. Stay in touch with your hobbies, talents and work-related aspirations, as you need to get back to them after a break. If you are not ready to go back to full-time job, consider working from home or some kind of business. Wipe away idle time from your life, because if your mind is busy with something productive, it will be easier and faster to get back to normal life.
Go On Dinner Dates With Your Spouse:
Your spouse can be your greatest support during this phase of transition. He should support you in your responsibilities and also help you get to your earlier self. He needs to pamper you as a girlfriend or wife, and let you take wise decisions to get back to life. You can spend some quality time with your spouse to discuss issues, emotions or challenges, and let them usher their love and care on you.
A woman has to wear different hats of responsibilities in her lifetime, and each one is as important as the other. While you have to fulfill each and every role with equal diligence, you also need time for yourself, when you can enjoy the true essence of being a woman. So, consider pregnancy, delivery, initial motherhood woes as passing phases, and think about getting back to your true self, so that you can deliver your best in any relationship. Do not shy away from taking help from spouse, friends and family as they can become your true support system and provide you proper guidance during this transition.