Children develop a strong bonding towards the home they stay in or to its surroundings and neighbours. They tend to have an emotional attachment to the place they grow up in. We all do, but perhaps, it is more difficult for kids to adjust to the fact that they might have to move from there for whatever reason.
Home is the sweet and cozy place that we want to return at the end of the day. Though, it is something normal for us, for a child, a home means more than just a space to eat, and sleep. Kids use their creativity and imagination to give it a whole new dimension. They will create a small playing den or a reader’s nook or a small garden of their own. Since they feel about something or someone so strongly, it gets all the more difficult to make them understand that sometimes home is not permanent.
5 Ways To Break The News And Prepare Your Child For Moving Are:
Tell Them Early:
Do not delay things till the end, rather tell them as soon as the decision is final. This gives them time to deal with it emotionally. If they know early, they will take time to detach themselves with things or people that they are going to leave behind. So, tell them when and why you are moving and answer their queries and questions properly.
When you break the news to them, it is obvious that they will resist or there will be an outburst of feelings. So, handle it with care and do not be aggressive or try to suppress their emotional turmoil. Try to reason as to why this the right decision for the family. As a parent, you will know how to handle their emotions of pain, anger or regression.
Take Their Suggestions:
Involve them in the process of moving out. Take their suggestions or feedback on things they can understand or help with. Once, you engage them in discussion about the move, they will feel important and interested, thus feeling more positive about the action. Take their help in packing.
Tell Them About The New Place:
Give all important details about the new place and tell them how it is good or at par with their existing house. Show them or point out the good things about the new place, its surroundings or the neighbourhood. Tell them about things they can do there – maybe it has a very good school, it’s close to a famous theme park – something to get them excited.
Give a positive picture of the move to your children. Sometimes, it might be a sad reason, but let them know that moving is the best option, and that it will be a good decision in the long-term. Once they move they will automatically start adapting to the place. Your positive attitude will also help them to handle the situation positively.
Displacing yourself from one place to the other is a tedious task. And, it is more difficult or cumbersome with kids. You not only have to manage their physical displacement, but also handle their emotional movement too. So, it is always better to prepare them well in time and seeking their help, while you have to move from a place, locality or country.