As important as it is to nurture your child with love and care, it is also important to discipline them once in a while, or whenever you feel it is important. Without proper discipline in life, they tend to think whatever they do is right and they will get away with it, one way or the other. The right discipline at the right age helps your child to develop self-control and patience, and it also helps in goal setting and performance in every sector of life.
Their behavior, expectations, demands and interaction with the external world depends a lot on their discipline regime at home. It is not that you have to always scold them or say NO to their demands. But, you need to teach them what is right and what is wrong, how to control their emotions and how to face the challenges in life.
Some Of The Effective Age Appropriate Discipline Rules That You Can Follow Are:
1 Year Old:
Your baby is still young to understand about life and discipline. So, basically you need to start with simple things like telling them this is okay and that is not, or diverting their attention to good behavior. Right now, verbal instructions or strict actions will not be much effective.
2 Years Old:
By this age, your child might have just started pre-school, so he/she needs to learn mannerism and interaction with the external world. So, simple verbal instructions are effective, teaching them what is good and bad, showing them examples, telling them that if they do not do something right, they will get to watch their favourite cartoon and so on.
3 to 4 Years Old:
By this age, their interactions with the external world increases a lot and they are able to interpret things in their own way. They are able to understand and respond to verbal instructions. By this time, you can start setting the rules in the house, which they need to obey and make them understand that if they don’t, there can be mild form of punishment as well.
5 to 7 Years Old:
You can continue the earlier regime with stricter rules of play and study times, their manners and behavior. Now, they can completely relate to the rules in the house and at school. So, they know about the consequences if they do not obey or ignore repeatedly. By now, they should learn to do their own work without mush assistance and supervision.
Above 7 Years Old:
This is a stage, where you can start with the grounding rules, for example, no mobile or no visit to a friend’s house as a form of punishment. Sometimes, verbal instructions might lead to heated discussion, so you need to choose your words carefully. By now, they should be able to make their younger sibling (if any) aware about the rules and help them obey too.
Whatever may be your discipline regime, it should never have a negative impact on your child. It should be positive and beneficial for their growth and development- both physically and mentally. A child with a strong mind and an amicable mental health will always be able to learn and perform faster. Your discipline should be a facilitator, rather than an inhibitor for them.